If you want to make a big change in your career or your life, it can be daunting. The obstacles you face are real. The consequences of failing or making a mistake keep you immobilized. This is a common, frustrating reality. Now I want to give you some insight on how to get the ball rolling in the right direction.

Step one: Decide you want to make a change. 

Make a verbal pack with yourself and a few precious friends. Speak your desire out loud. Write down your goal and post it near your bed or computer. The statement of your desire is a powerful step towards the accomplishment of your goal.

Step two: Recognize that your fears are normal.

The gap between your current circumstances and your vision can be substantial. Faced with a changing, unknown future, anxiety bubbles up and threatens to de-rail your progress. When I was in my early twenties, I knew I wanted to become some sort of counselor but fear blocked me at every turn. I was afraid I could not pass the GRE (graduate record exam), I worried about my limited savings and paltry income. Stress made it difficult to sleep. I was tied up in knots.

Does any of this sound familiar? If you are in this state now or have been in the past, you know that fear is a powerful, and potentially destructive, force. Here’s the news flash: fear is a normal, predictable part of your life and career process. Once you realize that you are not failing or crazy, you can get back to the business of moving towards your desires.

Step three: Consider the possibility that things can get better.

When you are getting started with a life or career change, it’s common to be confronted with obstacles. You get depressed and discouraged. You see your low bank account, the pile of bills and all your obligations standing between you and your aspirations. 

This is the time to pull your attention away from what is not working to what could change. Could your financial situation be improved? Well, yes it could. Imagine how your life could get easier, less cluttered and more efficient. Humm, this suggests that small steps and the right attitude can mobilize you to take wise action.

Step four: Stop blaming others and making excuses.

I’ve been sympathetic up to this point. Now I need to confront you just a little bit. Do you feel like life is giving you a raw deal? Do you think that a great career or a great life is simply what you deserve? If so, your feelings and thoughts are the main obstacle between you and a better existence. Take responsibility for your current situation. Put the focus on your assets, not your liabilities. Have faith in yourself. Be resourceful and accountable. With this perspective, you are well on your way to reaching your potential.